Teamwork is something that I always don't look forward to. As you may know, a team is made up of individuals. In other words, a conflict will occur anytime because everyone has DIFFERENT opinions to a certain idea. Throughout these years in highschool, I have bumped into many cases where I cried and some teammates got mad, and a whole lot more of various issues that are uncountable. Even though, these are hard times where I really do have to strengthen myself to deal with them because it is something that I can't avoid, teamwork is still something that I do struggle with. Consequently, I'm ready in sharing you all a story that happened in a Seventh Grade English Class. It is a memory in which I can't get rid out of my mind for many years because it is like a stain that can't be rubbed off.
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(a) Describe the conflict(b) Identify and explain the surface and core issues of the conflict
(c) How would you resolve the conflict
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(a) There are four people included in this conflict but it focused muchly on one of the member, Beth* and myself. It is a very complicated kind of conflict in which I had problems in explaining it to my subject teacher. To be honest, I was the one who solved the conflict at the end. The teacher wasn't able to work out the way. Nevertheless, she was a good listener and showing support when I was giving my explanation of what was happening and so on. Let's get started, we were to create a society of our own and designing stuff that we would love to have in our community. There were many small tasks that should be assigned to each of the member accordingly. Therefore, the day when we all separated the roles to the members, we were all clear who got this job and that he or she was to finish it ON TIME.
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When it was the day to perform and present it to the class, Beth was not able to finish her task and so she needed me to complete it for her in a limited amount of time. The other two members weren't aware of what was happening because they were listening to other groups presenting. I worked really hard in my parts and I was already worn out, but I wasn't able to talk or even whisper, since the whole room was in silence, nobody was making a sound or anything because a group was doing their presentation. As a result, I scribbled down whatever I was able to think of at the tip of my head. It is obvious that she wasn't being reponsible. I was really frustrated and because I wasn't able to let my feelings out, I cried. Thus, the teacher saw me and so she called me out to have a talk. For that reason, Beth was feeling a little uneasy and so she was trying to say that she didn't do anything wrong.
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(b) The surface issue of the conflict is that Beth hasn't finished her part on time and she has in mind that it is someone else's fault. She isn't feeling a bit wretched at all from studying her actions to the team and myself, and therefore frustration and the sign of me crying are certainly the roadblocks in resolving the conflict, as it notifies her that I'm not strong enough and frustration is simply blocking me from solving the problem because I'm in an aggressive mood. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't be working out the conflict with much confidence.
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Beth's perspective:
She is wrong, and I'm not.
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My perspective:
I should care in knowing how she thinks of the conflict, not just myself.
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(c) Dealing with this kind of person, I definitely wouldn't bother to let her feel that I'm losing self-assurance. I would make sure that I'm getting myself back together first because it is significant to have full confidence in myself so that I may stand tall and not looking like a crushed person. I might let her know that she shouldn't be acting in that kind of manner. She is to learn how to look at a problem from someone's else's perspective. Moreoever, less complaining will do the work. I could have waited for a couple of days after the conflict, and then start slowing communicating with her with a proper tone and putting a smile on my face might as well do the job. Even though, it does sound kind of unfair of having me to do all those work, I'm the one who has got to learn from experience and not letting myself falling behind.
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NEVER
let
frustration
own me!
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*Beth - A made up name
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