Conflict can happen when family members have different views or beliefs that clash. Sometimes conflict can occur when people misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusion. It is normal to disagree with each other from time to time. Occasional conflict is part of family life. However, ongoing conflict can be stressful and damaging to relationships. My sister and I find it difficult to manage our feelings and become intentionally hurtful, aggressive or even violent.
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(a) Describe the conflict:
My dad and mom are fine. My sister and I are like magnets. It does seem that my family is in a pretty good state. NOT. We do have conflicts almost every single day. Those conflicts are usually the ones started by either me or my sister. We argue over things that are small and it can be kept away from the yelling and shouting from happening. However, we are really "big mouth" people. Correct, I do think before I act, but my sister doesn't and vise versa. Small fights in not helping to answer the phone or lazy in not helping the other person to get the remote control are examples in which conflict will take place.
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(b) Identify and explain the surface and core issues of the conflict:
Both of us seem to bristle at the slightest problem and appear eager for a fight most of the time. Personally, I think the core issue of why we act in this kind of way is that the stress and pressure we get from school and from home. Moreover, now that we are teengers, we do have mood swings to a degree in which things will go in a wrong approach. Pushing for independence is also another reason where we develop our own beliefs and values. Therefore, if I just simply wanted my sister to answer the phone for me, she might think I'm being immature because I'm not picking the phone myself. We think differently, and so we often do get into arguments or even a slight of violent behavior can be seen because no one is willing to lose.
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(c) How would you resolve the conflict:
1. Keep in mind that my sister has a completely different persepective in things and different motivators
2. Learn to read her signals (E.g. Is she having a "sudden" bad morning or day)
3. Better answer the phone myself!
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