This is my last journal entr and so I would love to discuss about some conflicts I had within myself. In other words, unlimited thoughts and personal judgements that I have are a kind of conflict where I'm giving myself a chance in damaging myself.
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(a) Describe the conflict:
I'm the kind of person that have many many wants and would be dreaming all the time in things that I absolutely want to have. Hence, it is creating a sense in me that I'm not good enough to get what I want. For instance, if I adore a certain idol and he/she is someone that I look upon to. I would usually think that I should become her, so in a way that I would be admired by my friends. As a result, I'm nudging myself to become someone else and not myself. Therefore, I'm putting pressure in myself all the time and so I do feel dreadful when I'm not meeting the expectations for my close ones and others out there.
(b) Identify and explain the surface and core issues of the conflict:
- Do speak about what I not have and regret
- Dreaming and not experiencing in the real world
- Thinking about uncertainty and always use "if"
- Thinking about uncertainty and always use "if"
- Not expressing my true self
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(c) How would you resolve the conflict:
(c) How would you resolve the conflict:
- Remind myself that I should live with what I have
- Stop the habit in dreaming and start to work and keep it going
- Be myself (Never be fooled by lying myself in who I am)
- Be what I want to become, ignore what people are saying about me
- Be responsible at all times
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I'm the one to decide who I want to become and it is crucial that I make appropriate choices.
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I was in the same dilemma.
ReplyDeleteTo become who you are really are, or that ideal figure which you had set upon yourself.
I believe that each one of us is unique in our own ways which is what distinguish people apart from you.
Becoming yet another face in the crowd is like putting up a facade, concealing your true self.
Slowly but surely, it was tearing me apart as it was just taxing, on both mind and body to sustain a happy, optimistic and cheerful image while my private side screams for attention.
So I opted to become who I really was. Yup, I agree with you that you are the one to decide who you want to become to be and do not be blinded to people's expectation because sometimes, it will lead you astray from your true self.
Oh and keep in mind that whatever your friends may say, be it about your looks or etc, you don't have to blindly follow and accept it to meet to his/her expectation because after all, what he/she thinks may be the best for him/her, may not be the best for you.
Different people have different perception on how things should be done as it varies from one person to another. Moreover, their believes may not always be correct.
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